Magic of Polarity
Polarity is the attraction between two poles, one positive and one negative, creating a natural magnetism between them. Think of it like yin and yang, but instead of being an even 50/50 split, masculine and feminine energies can shift and change, becoming more or less prominent at different times. It’s all about the balance between these energies, and understanding this can help us connect more deeply to ourselves. Let’s break it down in simple terms.
Masculine energy is about focus, direction, and strength. It’s that feeling of knowing where you’re headed and having the drive to get there. Imagine when you grab the pole and learn tricks, feeling strong and in control—that’s you tapping into your masculine. It’s steady, clear, and structured, giving you a sense of purpose.
Feminine energy is the opposite. It’s all about movement, expression, and going with the flow. Think of those moments when you’re dancing without a plan, letting your body sway with the music, and just enjoying the moment. That’s your feminine energy coming through—soft, playful, and always changing.
The pole itself even represents masculine energy—even though it has a bit of a phallic vibe going on, that’s not the reason for its masculine status—it’s strong, stable, and always there, holding you up. You, as the dancer, bring the feminine energy, moving around it, wrapping yourself around it, and expressing yourself freely. One moment you’re climbing with determination, and the next, you’re spinning and letting go. This back-and-forth between the two energies is what creates the magic in pole dancing. When we freestyle, we combine the technical skills we’ve learned (masculine) and flow through movements intuitively, without a goal or direction, it’s that sense of being fully present in the moment and feeling your body moving through space.
So why does this matter? When we explore both the masculine and feminine energies, we start to feel more balanced, alive, and connected to ourselves. This combination is what creates magnetism—the feeling of being powerful yet free, strong yet soft. It’s not just about the dance moves; it’s about going deeper and dropping in. By building awareness around these energies, we can enhance our self-expression and creativity, not just on the pole but in every aspect of our lives.
As we cultivate a strong masculine, this provides inner safety for the feminine to come out and play. When our masculine is solid and secure, the feminine feels free to express herself, explore, and fully embrace her vulnerability.
You’ll likely notice that you tend to prefer being more in one pole, which means you’ll generally seek out a partner with the opposite energy. In any relationship, regardless of gender, there’s usually one person who leans more into their masculine (focused and structured) and the other who embodies their feminine energy (expressive and flowing). If you resonate more with your feminine, you’ll likely find yourself drawn to a partner who embodies the opposite pole, someone who embodies the masculine energy. This difference creates attraction, spark, and excitement between people. One brings direction, and the other brings movement, together creating a magnetic pull.
As we become more aware of these energies, we become more in tune with our desires, whether that’s money, health or relationships. It’s like flipping a switch; suddenly, we’re able to attract the things we want, whether it’s a solid partner, a fulfilling job, or simply a sense of joy in our everyday activities.
This month, we’ll dive into these energetic dynamics and embody how they move within us, using the pole as our tool. By playing with these energies, you’ll connect more deeply with your body, feel into your Authentic Erotic, and unlock a sense of balance and magnetism in your life.
Join us this Saturday, October 5th for a Polarity 101 workshop from 1-6pm
