Why Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

I’ve been trying to get a friend to start pole for so long because I truly believe it’s going to be transformative for her.

Recently, she shared with me why she’s been so scared to try it—she said she’s afraid of taking care of herself.

Oof! That hit deep.

It made me realize how much we, as women, give to others without allowing ourselves to receive.

The truth is, receiving doesn’t always feel safe for many of us.

It often stirs up guilt or shame, as if taking time for ourselves means we’re somehow failing those around us.

When we’re used to always showing up for others, it’s easier to focus on their emotions instead of sitting with our own.

It becomes a way of avoiding the discomfort of wondering how others might react if we took a moment just for us.

That fear of disappointing others holds us back from claiming the space we need to care for ourselves.

But here’s the thing—by giving ourselves that time, we also open up the space to nourish our own needs, to fill up our cup so we can love more deeply, live more fully.

This is why I invite you to come to our Intro to Pole class.

This is your time to reclaim your body, your energy, and your power.

You deserve to feel into yourself, take up that space, and give back to you.